This Parenting thing is Hard… Right?
Alright, who is ready for some truth bombs on Parenting? I feel that this subject is so taboo, and no one ever wants to talk about it. Fearing the judgment, rude comments and the completely uneducated trolls to come out from under their bridge to say how horrible of a human you are. If you are one of these trolls, I left you a snack, so please kindly return home!
When struggling with Mental Health you often have unrealistic fears on just about everything in life. Like I seriously went through a phase I couldn’t take the kids outside as I was scared a plane was going to fall out of the sky and crush them. Or that a car would come up into the yard flipping through the air (like you see in the movie scenes) and land on my kids. So we played inside… A LOT!
Paired with those crazy fears, you often think about how much you’re screwing up your kid’s life, how bad of a mom and wife you are. Just these thoughts can cause a cascade of anxiety leading to panic attacks. All in a matter of seconds while your sitting in your lounge chair.
What is the hard part?
All of it!
- The not being able to play with your kids when you want to
- Struggling to make them that healthy food
- Taking them out in public
- Yelling at them for no reason
- They hearing you argue
- They seeing you cry
- Putting them to bed early so you can just go to bed
- Overwhelmed by their homework
- The fear of them growing up, getting hurt, moving away…
What to do?
I don’t shelter my kids from everything to do with my mental health. When my children experience or see that I am struggling, I take the opportunity to explain to them about Mental Health (when I am able), and what Mommy is dealing with. I explain that it is ok and that mommy is ok. Sometimes people have health issues that don’t make their brains feel good.
I want my children to know that Mental Health is something that shouldn’t be feared. I still very much love them, and that it doesn’t have anything to do with them. Mental health is on the rise, and there is a lot of places that they will go and be around people with Mental Health. We need to Raise awareness in our children.
They need to know what some of these feelings are, so they can identify them. If they are starting to feel these or if they see them in a friend they will understand. Suicide is on the rise in adolescents, and people are often missing the signs that someone needs help.
Really at this point, when we as parents talk to our kids about, sickness, health, body, race, religion, Mental health needs to be apart of that. There are so many amazing organizations out there that can help talk to you and your children if you don’t know how to explain it.
If you or someone you know is struggling with Mental Health, Please seek the proper help. Whether its your family dr, a counselor, or a Psychiatrist. As a Registered Holistic Nutritionist Specialized in helping Women and Children struggling with Mental Health. I offer a Free Consultation. You are not Alone!